Be a Taker

Although you have often heard that you should give, which is true, certain instances exist where you should take. And not just a little. Take as much as possible.

When people around you offer words of advice and wisdom, instead of nodding your head politely and simply smiling at them, take them seriously. You never know when their advice might come in handy. So many people have so much to offer. And it's not just adults. Even younger kids have information that is worthy of your time and attention. (It sounds incredible I know, but sometimes they really do have something worth talking about!)

One thing that will stop you from hearing advice is a lack of humility -- thinking you already know. That's what stops me anyway. So don't let pride get in the way.

Another thing that will keep you from being a taker is a preoccupation with other matters. In our society of technologically driven entertainment, being distracted while someone chatters is quite easy. However, you might not get the chance to hear what they have to say again. Moments are like gems, but you have to recognize them for their value in order to glean the dividend. Moments are precious and fleeting. Unless you set your mind to appreciating them, it is easy to let them slip.

Now, back to taking. You can also take people's time. The main focus in taking others' time is love. Love them through the time you give. Invest in them and make them feel worthwhile. Ask them to give you their time to explain how they made that delicious bowl of soup or that snazzy model car. Ask them how long it took them to establish their ranch or set up their Wii system. Will you always learn something you can use? Well, not necessarily, but you will make them feel valued.

How do you know what to take their time with? Well, look around you and see what is important to them. Then, probe them about it. People love talking about their hobbies. You will not only establish a closer relationship with that person, but you will make them feel cared about.

So, take the time to take their time. And take the time to listen. Get as much advice as you can. It might just come in handy one day.